Showing posts with label School. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 25, 2013

The Greatest Stories

“You read and write and sing and experience, thinking that one day these things will build the character you admire to live as. You love and lose and bleed best you can, to the extreme, hoping that one day the world will read you like the poem you want to be.” Charlotte Eriksson
I think I value stories more than other people. I do have a blog called "Stories," after all. Nobody else I know of has a list of there favorite stories saved, on the off chance someone might want to pick one, sit back, and listen.

With that in mind, I'd like to ask for some input. I tried to narrow my ever-growing list of stories into the very best of them. But more than just my personal favorite stories or the ones I most enjoy telling, I want to know which my friends and family like most.

With that said, here's your task, should you so choose it. Below is a list of most of my stories, organized by broad categories. (A few have been strategically omitted for various reasons. Some tales need to be told only at the right time.) I would love for you let me know which of them you like best. If you haven't heard/read any of these stories, or if there are a few unknowns that pique your interest, feel free to mention them as well. My desire is to hone my story-telling, both oral and written, and I want to practice by telling the most compelling and memorable. (For those of you who were forced to listen to my stories during Wednesday night devos the last two years at Camp of the Hills, those are italicized! You're welcome!)


Personal Injury:
Rock to the Head, Snake in the Canoe, The Rope-Swing Incident, The Bike Ramp, The Shopping Cart, Spinal Meningitis, Chain-Link Fence, Downhill Cliff Paddle-Boating, The 4-Wheeler, Christian Zone Roof, Street Luge, B.B. Gun Rambo, Why I Shouldn't Dance, Peanut Butter Skit, NFL Defensive End and the Burnet Emergency Room, Shovel to the Face, Week 3, 2009, Joey New, Kirby Punch Hug,

Girl Stories:
The Proposal, Wedding First Dance, Thai Food Dance, The Hand-Hold, The Cardboard Cut-Out, I Wanna Be, Homecoming 2003, Prom 2002, Prom 2003, Prom-blems (Prom 2004)
the Summer 2006 Camper Letters, the 10 Hour Drive, Painting the House, "Allergies Be Darned!" Crushed Up Crystals, The Accidental Note, Summer 2009 Narrative, Snaturday, First Time Ros and I met Shannon

Faith:
Cambodia 2009, How We Became a Part of St. Ann's, Killagarden, Blake Box,
Gerald’s Mustang,


Miscellaneous Stories:
The Rattle Snake, "I'm Afraid of Bugs!", Drew's First Day at Camp of the Hills, The Ninja Escapades, Week 7 2004, Week 7 2005 Wednesday, Turtle Watch 2004, The Liaison Days, Chiang Mai Night Market, 648, The Pillow Fights of 07, Cave Writings in the Tomb, the Flood of 2007, The Freshman Year Debauchal, Final Day of Camp 2005, The Quandre Experience, Dead Man in a Culligan Truck, The Princess (Skit) Diaries, Halloween Costumes (Aggie Dad, Braveheart, and Leonidas) Waterfall Losses, The Wolf Den Prank War, The Epic Bonfire, Last Day at JM, Wipin' Butt and Gettin' Beaten, Summer 2007 Crucifixions, Why I Hate Hay, The Story of the Vince Dive, Lesser Known Camp Fire, Nalgene Bottle and Explosives, Harlem Shake-Off, Giant Hamster/Pancake Narrative, The Beast, B1/B2 Celtic Games, Cherokee Indian Basketball, Astros Rally Underwear, Bungee Jumping, Obstacle Course, Pocket of Sushi,  I'm a Seoul Man, GATA Formal '09, Journey Air Band, Natural Disasters and Ambulances (Week 1, 2009), Memorial Day Kayaking (The Best Day Ever), CotHiosis Epidemic, Dining Hall Fire, Mono, Kayaking with Rosten and the Kirbys, “Chris fell in the poo,” Tug of War 2012, Winter Wonderland Prank, Toad in the Sidewalk Crack, Pneumonia! You’re my Kryptonite!, Office Depot: Delivering Disaster,

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

The Debate, and How I Got There

Ethics was an interesting class.

I'd only had Randy Harris one other time, and that was for my wide-eyed, "I thought I knew a lot about the Bible because I did well in Bible Bowl but now you're blowing my mind with new ideas!" phase. By the time the fall of 2011 had rolled around, I was still having my mind rocked by new ideas, but a lot of the earth-shattering new beliefs were in the rear-view mirror, even if that meant that I had invited them to pile into the backseat for my journey.

Randy presented us with an outline of the different things we'd be working through in class: the first half of the semester would be examining different ethical models to better understand from which we operated, while the second half was more built around learning by debating about different issues of the day. Randy would present both sides of an issue to the best of his ability for a class period, then had two groups debate it back and forth the next class period. He would moderate those debates, sometimes soothing tempers if things got too testy, sometimes ripping into a group who were winning too easily to keep us on our toes. (He's quite talented at that.)

I had my preferences for what I really wanted to argue for when the topics were named, and I had some topics that I wanted to avoid like the plague. For instance, I was watering at the mouth to debate on the side of Affirmative Action, but would have been crestfallen to be on the opposite side. With the decision not up to the students, however, I could only hope that I would be debating on the side of something I believed in strongly.

Flash back to 2004 for a moment. I had recently turned 18, and I had a deep sense that it was my duty to vote in the presidential election. (Part of me still wrestles with why I'm so willing to vote for someone to work in Washington, D.C., but so often I'm apathetic towards local elections. I'm working on it, though...) Being young, I wasn't very well practiced at parsing the nuances of issues or candidates, so it all came down to two factors when I went to the polling place: I thought that George W. Bush was more likely to do a good job of taking care of Texas than John Kerry, since Bush was from Texas, and I thought that the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan could end up being a positive if once they were won, Christian missionaries would have more ability to evangelize there.

Looking back, I'm pretty ashamed of my reasons for that vote. Sure, there were legitimate reasons to vote for Bush and for Kerry, but I didn't search very deep for those reasons, I just went with the easiest answer. That frustrates me, especially that I so easily justified war in my mind.

Within the space of a few years, I watched several friends go to war. I feel eternally blessed that most of them have returned alive so far, but through my conversations with them, I have begun to realize what a heavy burden war is to so many. In my heart, I began to believe that the reasons I held in 2004 were not justification enough for the horrors of war.

I have continued to look at my own justifications of war and those of others. Though it was a long and slow journey, the list of reasons I could accept as reasonable shrank considerably as the years progressed.

Suddenly, Randy Harris called my name. I was a part of the group advocating for peace without the use of violence.

SCORE!

I feel like every group project in school has either that one person who goes all out, the person who doesn't contribute anything or both. Confession time: I was the non-contributor at times during my extended college career. But not this time.

We were required to debate as if we held the views for which we were advocating, so we divvied up the different topics for our paper. As the resident Ministry/Sociology major of our group, I was assigned writing up the Biblical and social aspects of our "Pro-Peace" debate. (If you're just a glutton for punishment, feel free to read the paper here. The parts I wrote are the introduction and page 3 and 4.)

One of the most persuasive arguments against our side had already been laid out in three simple words: "What about Hitler?" We knew, without a doubt, that our classmates would be tossing that question at us, hoping that we would be unable to squirm around the uncomfortable truth that if a raving lunatic or truly evil person gains power, something must be done. Their position was that just war was not only allowable, it was necessary at times. How do you argue against fighting Hitler?

We had arrived at our answer to that question well in advance, since we knew it was coming, but I happened to be strolling around the Bible building an hour before our debate, when I ran into Dr. Chris Flanders. He's a professor in the Graduate School of Theology, a friend, and something of a mentor to me, or at least someone who cares about me. I casually mentioned the debate, and he said, "You got a minute? I've got something you might find helpful." I quickly agreed, and he led me to the campus bookstore. There he pulled a book from the shelf and handed it to me as my eyes got wide. He smiled as I hurriedly thanked him and purchased it immediately.

I found the rest of my group preparing for the debate, and beamed as I lay the book down on the table. It was entitled "What about Hitler?"

We flipped to one of the last chapters, because authors rarely just get right to the very best part, and found our position articulated beautifully, much more eloquently than we could have pulled off on the spot.

"At this juncture it is time for me to respond to the Hitler question: how should Christians respond to the kind of evil Hitler represents if just war theory and supreme emergencies are precluded, and if we live with a different measure of success?
We must live faithfully; we must be humble in our faith and truthful in what we say and do; we must repay evil with good; and we must be peacemakers. This may also mean as a result that the evildoers will kill us. Then, we shall also die.
That's it. There is nothing else-- or rather, anything else is only a footnote to this. We are called to live the kingdom as he proclaimed it and be his disciples, come what may. We are, in his words, flowers flourishing and growing wild today, and tomorrow destined for the furnace. We are God's people, living by faith.
The gospel is clear and simple, and I know what my response to the Hitler question must be. And I desperately want to avoid this conclusion. When my time comes, I may well trot out every nuanced argument I can develop, or seek a way out in St. Thomas Aquinas or Paul Ramsey. This would serve me and my fear, my hypocrisy, and my faithlessness very well. But I would not be telling the truth or living as I ought and as I am called to live.

I've had a hard time justifying killing under any circumstance for a while now, but my problem with that has been the lingering question of, "If not violence, then what?" While war feels wrong to me, I don't feel right about standing against something without offering a viable alternative solution. Yet that alternative had been taught to me my whole life without me realizing it.

Jesus was innocent, and had every right to use violence, but chose a different path. He did not hurt those who we would call his enemies, but he also stood up peacefully against them. He found a third way to deal with those who used violence and intimidation to hurt others, like when he disarmed the crowd who sought to stone the woman caught in adultery. He did not run from the soldiers who came to arrest him, neither did he allow his disciples to fight them. His words, "Put your sword away, for he who lives by the sword dies by the sword!" ring in my ears when I try to rationalize the losses of war as necessary. Jesus affirmed the humanity of Peter and Malchus in the garden.

So, as a Christian who has long struggled with violence and what could be an appropriate alternative, I would like to submit Jesus' example to those who might be feeling the same as I have, and even to those who have no problem with waging a "just war." Below is a potential way that non-violence could be used to mitigate between two warring sides, whether both are aggressors, or one side is attacking a peaceful group.

Imagine Canada suddenly broke out into a civil war. Eastern provinces vs. Western provinces. Instead of choosing a side that seems most right and fighting with them or staying out of the entire mess, imagine ten thousand Christians standing between the two groups. No weapons, just people. The Christians send word to both sides with a simple message:

"We believe that you are worthwhile, because you are a human, and thus we cannot suffer the thought of you dying or being ravaged by war in your body, mind, or heart. In the same way, we believe that our brothers and sisters with whom you are at war are just as worthwhile. We will not stop you from fighting, but you will have to fight through us. We are willing to die on this ground, but we are not willing to allow violence towards any human. If you choose to fight those you call your enemies, do so knowing that to kill them, you must kill us first."

It's certainly not a popular vision of how to mediate conflict. I'm sure that there are some glaring issues that would have to be worked out (Like how to stand between factions in a time of guided missiles, where are you going to find that many people willing to die for the sake of others, etc.). This vision is not easy, by any means. It's so radical that it seems impossible. But we have glimpses of those who lived in such a way, like Jesus, Gandhi, and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. It's a standard I don't know if I can live up to.

But it also helps my faith to see an alternative to war. I have a hard time believing that God desires war. Certainly there are passages in the Old Testament that point to a bloodthirsty God, but in Jesus, we see God's best representation on Earth of what God desires for a human to be like. In Jesus, we see someone who is radically peaceful.

I do not want to belittle or invalidate Christians who feel called to join the military. My voice is just one of many in a chorus of believers who are trying to figure out how best to follow Jesus. And while the conclusions I have drawn are right for me, I do not pretend to speak for the entire spectrum of Christianity, nor can I with any certainty say that I've figured out what God wants. I can only express what I have learned and believed based on my own experiences and studies.

This isn't the last time the blog will feature this topic. Next time it comes up, I'm looking forward to sharing some ideas about how this ideal could be lived out daily. Shane Claiborne has some good stories that speak to that, so be looking for it in the future. Until then, feel free to discuss your own thoughts in the comments section.

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Crushed Crystals

(Note to readers: Wednesdays are going to be dedicated to telling stories. Sometimes my own, maybe sometimes other people's. To start, here's the earliest story I can remember from my childhood.)

First grade was a time of transition for me.

During Kindergarden I had learned an invaluable lesson about girls: no matter how strong your feelings were for a girl, you had to muster the confidence to actually do something constructive about your crush, otherwise you would get nowhere fast. I also learned that asking Mrs. Godfrey if I could move my nap mat nearer to Ashley Sweet's mat didn't count as "constructive." Ashley moved away over the summer before first grade, leaving my six year old heart reeling. I decided that I would not make the mistake of indecision the next time.

Next time was Stephanie Pitcock. I don't remember much about her, except that she was very nice and had dark hair, and her dad was friends with my dad through baseball or something. I do remember that she made me forget all about what's-her-name from Kindergarden.

My crush on Stephanie was a few months old before I was able to figure out how to approach her. Girls were still very scary, and I had no idea how to talk to her. But I was certain that if I could somehow convince her to be my girlfriend, that she'd fall in love with me, and we'd end up married. (If you stick around the blog long enough, you'll notice that this is a recurring theme.) The question in my mind was, "How do I get a girl to like me without talking to her?"

I was in a predicament, no doubt.

Luckily for me, television commercials had already taught me everything I needed to know. Jewelry commercials continually whispered into my ears that if you get a girl a pretty enough rock, she will love you forever. Each featured an overjoyed girl falling into the arms of the guy who brought her the pretty rock. I knew what I needed, but finding a rock pretty enough would be no small task.

I didn't get an allowance back then, and the change I found hidden in the couch cushions did not add up to enough to buy a diamond. This did not discourage me, though, because I knew lots about nature. Some combination of My Big Backyard and Ranger Rick magazines, the Discovery Channel, and a childhood of traipsing through the woods and creeks near my house had given me the confidence I needed to become an amateur geologist.

I told my mom that I was going out to play, but I was all business. I quickly set out for the areas near my house that had the most plentiful assortments of rocks to find what I needed to woo Stephanie. I soon had a decent-sized pile of rocks of every sort. None of them looked like much on the outside, but I knew better. Underneath the dull exterior, some of those stones concealed crystals of untold value.

I can't remember my mom's reaction when I popped my head back into the house to ask her for a hammer. I just remember that she allowed me to borrow it, which leads me to believe that such strange requests might have been commonplace in our house. By this age, I had already established an identity as a reptile catcher, yet hadn't fully learned not to bring them into the house, so maybe my mom was just relieved that I was taking things out of the house instead of bringing things in. Nevertheless, before long I was back at my rock pile, hammer in hand.
Any first grader could make the mistake of believing
this substance was worth as much as a new car, right?

My first few attempts proved fruitless. Apparently, dirt clods can be easily confused with rocks that might contain crystals, even by someone who regularly watched the Discovery Channel. Eventually, though, I found what I had sought. Looking back it was probably nothing more than the rose quartz that is so common in Texas, but to six year old me it was more precious than diamonds. I was certain that the crystals would win Stephanie's heart.

With this success under my belt, I was ready to really go to work. My arm became sore quickly, but I pressed on with optimism, imagining how she would react when I gave her this costly gift. Within a few minutes, I had pulverized several chucks of the rock into tiny, white crystals. I ran back to the house and grabbed some sort of cloth. Hopefully, I had enough sense not to borrow one of the good napkins, but I can't be sure that I didn't. Soon, the crushed up crystals were safely wrapped in the cloth. I stored my bundle in my backpack, and planned out my next move.

Despite having a fool-proof plan in the bag, as it were, there was still the looming problem of how to give it to Stephanie without having to use words. I pride myself in being resourceful, and first grade me was no exception. I asked my dad to drop me off at school a little earlier the next morning. Check and mate!

The hallways were dimly lit and quiet as I nervously walked towards our classroom. My confidence had left me overnight, and I was already shaking like a leaf. Terrible scenarios flashed through my head: What if the door is locked? What if someone sees me place it on her desk? What if she doesn't like to play with lizards and turtles? I reached the door about ten minutes before class started and I was freaking out. I reached up for the doorknob.

I didn't know much about miracles at age six, other than what I'd seen on various felt boards on Sunday mornings, but I was certain I was in the middle of one when the door was unlocked and the classroom was empty. With newfound confidence, I sauntered up to Stephanie's desk and neatly placed the cloth-wrapped crystals on her desk, then merrily plopped down into my seat a few rows behind her.

As I sat staring straight ahead in the empty classroom, the two flaws in my plan occurred to me: Either everyone would walk in and see me chilling at my seat and a super cool and fancy gift on Stephanie's seat, thus alerting the public to my very personal feelings, or people would come in a couple at a time, and she would have no way of knowing that the unmarked bag of crystals were from me.

Oops.

Some people have the ability to hold it together in stressful situations. I like to think that doing so is a strength of mine now. But, for the love, it was not a strength then! I don't remember the specifics, but it's safe to say that the next few minutes were full of uncomfortable squirming.

The rest of my class came in gradually, but I was too busy blushing face down into my desk to see when Stephanie arrived. It wasn't until a break between lessons for water that everything went down.

I was quietly sitting in at my desk, finishing up a worksheet, when I heard a voice say, "Hey, Drew?" I looked up, and there she was, walking toward me. I had nowhere to run. Not that my brain could have relayed a coherent message to my limbs at this point, but the feeling of being trapped added to the panic that was overtaking my heart, mind, body, and soul.

She held up the bundle with a puzzled look on her face and asked, "Are these from you?"

Suddenly, it was time for action. I gathered all the courage that I usually saved for catching snakes that I wasn't sure were venomous or not or for when commercials for "Are You Afraid of the Dark?" came on Nickelodeon, and decided to be a man. Through the blushing cheeks, sweaty palms, and knocking knees, I was able to talk to a girl.

"No, I don't know what you're talking about."

She raised one of her ridiculously cute eyebrows quizzically, but shrugged and walked away.

It was my first real failure in the girls department. I had caved in the critical moment. All the hard work and planning thrown out the window. I was a liar and a coward.

But I had talked to a girl!

And sitting in the back of that classroom, I thought to myself, "I can build on this..."